Tuesday, 30 July 2013

Topical Tuesdays: How to deal with a break up

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We've all been there. You haven't got out of bed for a week, you're watching Bridget Jones Diary for the hundredth time and because of you sales of Ben & Jerrys have gone through the roof. That's right ladies, I'm talking about the dreaded break-up! It's a horrible thing for anyone to have to go through. You can't help over-analyzing everything "What did I do?" "What's wrong with me?" "Is it my fault?" "Am I ever going to meet the one?" You feel like your life is over. Any of this sound familiar? Well I'm here to tell you gorgeous lot that you are most definitely not alone and I am here to promise you (or at least try to!) that just because your relationship is over you will not end up a lonely, crazy cat lady!
I am speaking from a good few years of experience & although I am only 21 years old (almost 22!) I have had my fair share of heartbreak and rejection. You are not alone! 

So where do I begin and how can I help any of you guys who are dealing with a recent break-up? I guess I should start by telling you a few of the things I've had to deal with! To make it fun, I'm gonna call these the Friends episodes of breaking up! So I've had  "the one where my boyfriend turns out to be a lying cheating scum bag", "the one where he doesn't love me anymore" (ouch, that one hurt!), "the one where he already had a girlfriend", "the one where my boyfriend turned out to be gay" (that was interesting!) an of course there was the classic "the one where things just aren't working out". So to say I've had a lot of break up experience would be an understatement! 

Now I'm sure a lot of you are reading this thinking "how the heck is she so cheery about it?!" Well I can tell you ladies that right now I am in a very committed relationship of 2 years with my wonderful boyfriend Simon and I am happier than ever! You see there is a light at the end of that tunnel, you just have to be patient & it will find you. Trust me, there were times where I felt as if no one would ever treat me right and that I'd be alone forever (making myself sound really awesome right now!) but those feelings will pass, I promise! At the end of the day there is no point in wasting your tears and energy on someone who can't see how great you are! So here are my top tips for beating those break up blues!

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   1. Cry. Okay I know that sounds really silly after saying these tips are to make you feel better! But a good cry can be good for us and is a great way of venting our emotions! And of course you are going to be feeling upset after a break up, we're only human after all! So don't keep your tears all pent up, let yourself have a few days (because one day is never quite enough!) to mope about watching The Notebook, eating ice cream & having a good sniffle!

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     2. Pull yourself together! So after a few days of letting yourself be sad it's now time to say enough is enough! Tell yourself that you will not let this person make you feel like this! How dare they! I'm not saying get angry at that person, but don't let them take over you and your life. They don't want to be with you anymore and if they treated you badly whilst in the relationship then they are clearly not worth your time!                                                                                                                     
    3. Girl power! Okay I'm starting to sound like a Spice Girls song now but you get the idea. Surrounding yourself with your friends is the best thing to do after a break up. Friends are there to comfort you and help you through things so who better to spend time with during this difficult period you're going through? Arrange some fun girly days like shopping or going to a spa for a day. Trust me, it'll take your mind off of things!                                                                                                                  
   4. Talk to your mum! I know it can sometimes be a bit embarrassing talking boys with your ma, but they've been through it all a hundred times before! If anyone can give you any good advice about heartbreak it's got to be your mummy! Sit her down with a nice cuppa tea & let her know how you're feeling.                                                

   5. Finally, do something for you! Whether it be taking up a new hobby that you've always been interested in or focusing on what you've always wanted to do as a career, it's important to look out for number 1! 

Still feeling stuck in a break-up rut? Then make sure you remember the following things!

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"My boyfriend cheated on me! Is it my fault?"
No! There is never any excuse for that kind of behavior! If someone is unhappy in a relationship then they should just end it & some people need to learn that they can't have their cake and eat it too! From personal experience I have found that being cheated on actually makes the break up easier to get over. That person was clearly not worth my time, so why should I waste weeks feeling bad over them? It still hurts, but you will get over it and become a stronger person for it.

"I'm still in love with my ex! What do I do?"
It is completely normal to still have feelings for someone despite them breaking your heart! The best thing to do is to try to distract yourself. Go out and have fun. Time is most definitely a healer when it comes to this. There may even come a time when you look back and think "I can't believe I let myself feel that way about that person!"

"My boyfriend just broke up with me but still wants to be friends, should I?"
As someone who has never ended on good terms with any of my exes it's difficult to say. I know some people who are still great friends with their exes, so I guess it's all down to how you personally feel about that person. You have to ask yourself could you be around them when they have a new girlfriend? Or would it be too weird?

"I just got broken up with over Facebook. What does this mean?"
This means that you are so so so much better off without that person! If someone doesn't even have the decency to tell you how they feel to your face then the are not worth the time of day sweetie!

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"I'm always being dumped! Am I gonna end up alone? Am I doing something wrong?"
As someone who has been on the receiving end of a break up one too many times I can tell you that this has gone through my mind a thousand times! I can say that we all think like this occasionally  but y'know being on your own isn't the end of world! Sometimes it's good to just be yourself, do what you want when you want. If Mr Right (or Mrs Right!) happens to come along then awesome! If not, there's no hurry! Don't spend your life waiting for someone to whisk you off your feet and carry you horseback in to the sunset. It's completely normal to be single and you may even enjoy it. Without trying to sound terribly cliche, there is someone out there for everyone! Just let your life unfold and see what happens!

So there we have it! I hope my wise words (haha!) have helped any of you refusing to get out of the house 'cause you just can't face the outside world of smug, cutesy couples! If any of you have any questions or need any more advice then feel free to leave it in the comments! You can also message me if you feel your questions are a little too personal for public reading! Contact details can be find in the uh contact section (how genius!) Hope you all have a fab Tuesday!
Kelly xx

Tuesday, 23 July 2013

A Little Update

Hey guys! So I'm guessing that most of you lovelies have noticed I haven't been too chatty recently. The reason for this is that I've been a bit under the weather the past couple of weeks so have been in and out of hospital. Thankfully though I am now on the mend and felt that I should let you guys know where I've been! So do not fret, I will be posting regularly again & Topical Tuesdays will be making a return next week! 

Another thing I wanted to tell you beauts about is my YouTube channel! I'm pretty new to this video malarky and at the moment am waiting for a new camera, but as soon as I have it I will be uploading some new and (hopefully!) exciting videos! I can't wait to be able to properly chat to you lovelies! So if any of you have any suggestions for what you'd like to see me have a good old natter about then feel free to comment and let me know!

Once again, I would like to thank all of my wonderful followers for sticking by me and supporting me through my recent tough time. I promise you there are going to be some great reviews & recommendations popping up on here soon, and a few summery OOTD, which I hope you guys will love!

Any questions or video suggestions, let me know! Hope you all have a lovely day!
Kelly xx

Saturday, 6 July 2013

OOTD: Summer Monochrome

Hello again you gorgeous lot! Are you enjoying this lovely weather? I sure am! So I couldn't wait to get out in the sunshine and film my first ever OOTD video for you guys! I hope you enjoy! (I'm still getting used to this video malarky!)

Feel free to subscribe to my channel! New videos coming soon!

Kelly xx


Tuesday, 2 July 2013

Topical Tuesdays: Are We All Addicts?

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Hello my lovelies! Today's post is centered around something that affects or will affect each and every one of us. Whether it be ourselves that experience this or we are affected by someone else, there's bound to be some form of addiction in your life. Maybe, you're like me and feel addicted to chocolate and shopping! Maybe you're a bit of a sneaky smoker or like a drink every now and then? Perhaps it's a lot worse than this and you know someone going through drug addiction of some kind. Whatever it may be, I think we all need a little reminder of what addiction really is. And how does it start? I will also tell you a little about my own experience with addiction. Let's begin!

To me and I'm sure to most of you the word addiction conjures up mental images of smokers, substance-abusers & alcoholics. However there are many other ways you can become an addict of something. Perhaps you love watching that certain t.v programme and you can't seem to get enough of it. Does that make you an addict? Maybe you have special rituals you have to do each and every day. Does that mean you have OCD or that you're just addicted to doing these things? Can you be addicted to people? I believe there is a very thin line between addiction and obsession, both of which have very similar attributes. 

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So what is the difference between addiction and obsession? After a lot of research I have found that this is the best way to describe them. 
Obsession is being overly focused on one thing so that it prevents more important things from entering your life. Addiction is behavior that interrupts normal activity.

For example to someone who loves exercise and think they may be addicted/obsessed. They are addicted to the endorphin's which are released through exercise which produce the feeling of happiness, Therefore they become obsessed with exercise in order to feel this way.

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An example for someone who can't seem to stop smoking would be: The person is addicted to the nicotine in the cigarette as it seems to relax them. By doing this they feel almost safe whilst holding a cigarette (the psychological bit) therefore become obsessed with smoking in order to get this feeling.

Basically we can become addicted to the way something makes us feel and how that affects our mind and body. We can then obsess over it in order to feel this way.

It's very simple when we break it down and really think about it. So how do we battle these addictions & obsessions? Once we realise why we feel this way about certain things it can become a lot easier to stop doing them. Just think to yourself "do I really need this cigarette?" because the obvious answer is that you don't. You may feel very attached to it because it helped you through a rough time, but at the end of the day it's not doing you any good! I myself can say this as a few years ago I went through a bad stage in my life. A lot of things happened which I had to come to terms with and a friend offered me a cigarette claiming that it would calm me down. I then became a smoker for the next year. It made me feel like it was something to turn to when things got too rough. I decided to stop smoking after a year because I realised it was all in my mind. I didn't need the nicotine, I'd just become addicted to the way it made me feel and in turn obsessed with smoking. It was a strange time for me as I'd always been extremely anti-smoking. I'm so glad I stopped now. At the time it was a way for me to deal with the problems I was faced with, but I told myself I'm stronger than that, I don't need to smoke.

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I decided to write this post not just based on the risks of being addicted to just one thing, but to explore what being an addict actually is. I think it's important to understand why we become addicted & obsessed to certain things, it certainly helped me get through my addiction! We only depend on things because we believe they make us feel better, when really they're taking over us, controlling what we believe. We are all strong people, we just need to believe that instead! I'm also not trying to preach at anyone or to tell them what to do, these are just my views.

I really hope this post helps any of you out there that are trying to get over an addiction of some kind. Remember if you feel like you can't get over your addiction by yourself then tell a friend or family member or make an appointment with your doctor. There are always people who are more than happy to help you.  If you have any questions I will try my best to answer them. Remember I'm definitely no professional, but I will always give the best advice I can! Hope you all have a wonderful Tuesday and as always please be sensitive & thoughtful to others when commenting.
Kelly xx

Monday, 1 July 2013

June Favourites

Hello there lovelies. So it's that time again. I really can't believe how quickly this months gone! Anyhow let's get stuck in to my June faves!

LUSH Porridge Soap
If you read my recent LUSH haul you'll know that I love this soap! It's not pictured above as I got through it pretty quick! At first I wasn't too sure about this one as I wasn't keen on the smell, but as soon as this glorious stuff touched my skin I just knew it would be a favourite for time to come! I'd really recommend this if you suffer from dry skin as the oats are an excellent exfoliant for all your dry bits!

Rimmel Wake Me Up Foundation in Ivory
It took me a while to try this foundation out as I've not got on with Rimmel foundations in the past so was a little apprehensive. However I am so glad I finally decided to take the plunge and buy this lovely stuff! It is perfect for summer as it gives a lovely shimmery, dewy glow to the skin without looking shiny. It also gives medium to full coverage without feeling too heavy which is great for those hot days when you don't want to feel too "caked" in make up!

Maybeline 24hr Color Tattoo in On and on Bronze
After hearing a lot of fellow bloggers rave about it, I thought it was about time I gave this little beauty a try! It is a gel-cream eyeshadow and really does last all day! I love the texture and finish of this one; a gorgeous, shimmery bronze that glides on to my peepers beautifully. It is also very easy to blend for lots of different make up looks. 

Revlon Lip Butter in Wild Watermelon
I love Revlon Lip Butters! They feel so velvety smooth on my lips and seem to last for hours! I just love how soft they make my lips! Wild Watermelon is a gorgeous pinky red, a great colour for the hot summer months! Perfect!

Original Source Pink Grapefruit Shower Gel
I'm sure by now you all know how much I love my Original Source products. Well this one is the most delicious smelling shower gel I have ever tried! It smells so fresh and citrus-y, it's like summer in a bottle! If you're looking for a shower gel that will give you a feel-good boost and wake you up in the morning then this is definitely the one for you! 

Glo White Toothpaste
I'd recently read a lot of positive reviews for this new toothpaste from Australia that claims to get those pearly whites gleaming! At only £3.99 and with a free "special" toothbrush I just couldn't say no! I've only been using this for a few days, but already I am loving it. I haven't noticed any major changes in the colour of my teeth but they are definitely looking a bit brighter! I will carry on using this to see the full effects and give you lovelies a full review soon!

What else have I been loving this month?

Cross earrings - I'd been looking for a pair of cross earrings for a while now and when in my local New Look last week came across a gorgeous pair that had been reduced to just a pound. How can a girl say no to that? I have been practically wearing them non-stop for the past week, I love them!

 Evian mineral water - I know that seems an odd thing to see on a monthly faves post, but I just can't get enough of this stuff lately! The weather has been gorgeous the past week and I always keep a bottle of Evian on me as I think it's important for your skin and general health to stay hydrated, especially in the hot weather!

Going to the park in the sunshine - Speaking of hot weather I have been loving spending the long sunny days with my boyfriend and family. It doesn't have to be anything special, just a walk to the park or a cafe with my nearest and dearest is the one of the nicest things to do in this lovely weather!

So there we have it! Another month, another selection of favourites! What have you been loving this month? Let me know!
Kelly xx